I am a Christian but still feel empty...

I feel like I am a strong Christian, but still feel empty inside. How do I get filled up with God?


There could be several ways to look at this question. First of all, like my broken cup illustration, are there any hurts from the past that you haven't given over to God for healing? If so, then that would be the place to start.

If not, then I would ask another question.

Before I ask that question I'll explain an illustration that makes sense to me. It's as if we have two "engines" that we can fill each day. We will either choose to fill the engine of the flesh and its desires or the engine of the Spirit. We'll fill one or the other and if we don't intentionally choose one, we'll by default run off the engine of the flesh. So, my question would be.....are you filling the engine of the flesh or the engine of the Spirit each day?

Ephesians 6:7b-9 says, "A man reaps what he sows. The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up."

So, for example, there were certain days in the past where I decided to just take in whatever TV show I wanted, look at fashion magazines for hours, and thought a lot about my outward appearance etc. Since I was filling the engine of my flesh, I found myself feeling more empty inside. But, on the days that I decide to spend some quality time with God reading His Word and talking and listening to Him in prayer I tend to fill more satisfied and filled up. Does that make sense?

Some other verses I like are Jeremiah 17:5-8. I changed it to from he to she to make it more applicable to use girls :)

5 This is what the LORD says:
"Cursed is the one who trusts in man (human strength),
who depends on flesh for her strength
and whose heart turns away from the LORD.

6 She will be like a bush in the wastelands;
she will not see prosperity when it comes.
She will dwell in the parched places of the desert,
in a salt land where no one lives.

7 "But blessed is the girl who trusts in the LORD,
whose confidence is in him.

8 She will be like a tree planted by the water
that sends out its roots by the stream.
It does not fear when heat comes;
its leaves are always green.
It has no worries in a year of drought
and never fails to bear fruit."

It was like God was showing me that when I would choose to fill my "engine of the Spirit", I would be like that tree planted by the water. No matter what circumstances happened in my life....no matter if it there was heat or a year of drought...I would be filled up....my leaves would always be green and never fail to bear fruit. I still don't make the perfect choices and still have days that I decide to run off the engine of the flesh versus the engine of the Spirit. But, I'm growing and seeing God begin to fill and satisfy me more and more.

Psalm 90:14 says, "Satisfy us in the morning with your unfailing love, that we may sing for joy and be glad all our days." I love that thought. Being filled up by God so that I'm running on Him and not on me, my flesh! Satisfied, that's what I want!

There are different ways to connect with God, to feel close with Him and get "filled up" so to speak. What I realize is that I need to come to him everyday. For instance, I woke up today feeling kind of empty again. So, it is a daily process of allowing God to fill you. Some days you won't "feel" like spending time with God. Kind of like some days I don't "feel" like being with my husband. On those days I choose to love CJ even though my feelings don't feel it. It's the same way with God.

I have a bunch of ideas of how to connect with God on my website here: https://www.teen-beauty-tips.com/connect-with-god.html

There are many different ways to connect with God and I would encourage you to find the one that helps you feel closest to Him. For me, it's prayer walks. For one of my friends she closes her bedroom door, turns on worship music and dances before God. That's how she feels closest to God. For some, it's being in nature. So, everyone is different. I've found that journaling really helps too. You'll also need to take in God's Word as part of listening to God and these should give you some ideas!

Praying for you,

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true but..
by: Anonymous

but what if you feel you need a human relationship. Like God can't exactly give you a physical hug. or really reply to let you know he heard what you were talking about. This is why I am always in a relationship with a guy. The last guy I broke up with he was really nice but was leading me away from God..we were intimate and that's probably why I feel that I will literally die without him. I don't really believe God can truly satisfy your desire for love.
anyone that can help me please respond.

I don't think anyone knows how to answer this question and lately ive been thinking about suicide...


You are not alone
by: Shelley


First of all, I want to say that if you have thoughts of suicide call 911, 1-800-SUICIDE, or go the nearest emergency room. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. And we encourage you to choose life!

However, I do realize that sometimes it does help to have someone with skin to show you love, care and concern. Do you have parents or friends that care for you? Are you a Christian? If not, I would encourage you to ask questions and seek out what you believe about Jesus. He was an amazing man, but more than that, He can and will change your life! If you have more questions about Jesus, let us know.

If you are a Christian, I would encourage you to begin to pray for some close girl friends -- I had a time a few years ago where I just really needed some girl friends and didn't really have any close friends at the time close by. I totally saw God provide a small group of 4 of us that would meet and pray and share together.

I recommend girl friends because stuff with guys can often get really sticky - I know from personal experience. Emotions get involved and then you get hurt if you ever stop being friends or he sees someone else. Check out this article on that topic.

I also want to share a resource that may be helpful to you. It's a MP3 called "I am not alone" and is filled with truth from scripture reminding us that we are loved and never alone. I've struggled a lot with this area of loneliness and made this esp. for me but thought I'd also share it with the girls on the site.

Right click and choose "save as" to download to your computer
I am not alone mp3

I want you to know that I prayed for you today, Beth!

Fixing our eyes on Jesus,

Hey Beth
by: Anonymous

Hey Beth and Shelley,

I have been reading Sparkling Gems by Rick Renner and these devotionals are speaking life to my spirit man. The last entry I read was about setting aside your unnecessary weight and letting Jesus take care of your. In Hebrews 12:1 Wherefore seeing we are compassed about with so great a cloud witnesses, let us lay aside every weight. This is stating if we want Jesus to help us overcome our problems and walk us through difficult we have to lay aside of what we want and proclaim it is not my will but yours. As believers we must remember the Lord can bring us out from anything. Constantly, I have to remind myself that I am not alone and learn can bring me through my circumstances. The scripture also states, we can be held back by something we do not even realize. For instance, Beth you have a hard time moving forward from your boyfriend. I know how you feel. It took me a while. More like a year. I wanted physical comfort, but I also wanted God to teach me and become knowledgeable in him. Well, I realized I could not have both. I relationship was in the forefront of everything. It turned from what seem to be good, to bad and than worse. My problem was relying on making this relationship work and last and not relying on Jesus. I mainly relied on myself. Thus saying, Beth I encourage you trust in Jesus and he will guide you whatever do. He died on the cross for you and me. That is the greatest love. A man we do not know physically but we know deep down in our hearts he is there. Jesus feels that void and makes you fill empty. Remember that! So when you feel like this is the end and you want to harm yourself, remember your body is a shrine to Lord he loved you just as you are and his love is greatest love in this world. No one can love you, care for you like the Lord. That happiness and joy you feel inside that is not from yourself it is from that fulfillment the Lord put inside you. I hope for you the best! God Bless you!

I am going through something similar to Beth.
by: Anonymous

But, I don't really want a male friend I want a female friend that is a REAL Christian. The buses in my area don't run on Wednesday evening nor do they run on Sunday. I can not go to church. My mom is in a wheelchair and church vans don't want to deal with liability. My mom and I are close so I would never go to church knowing that she can't come. I watch sermons posted on the internet to keep me going. I used to have REAL Christian friends both male and female when I was about 9 or 10 at a church I was going to at that time (church members actually drove us to church every week). I am 16 now and that is the only time in my life that people talked to me or played games with me. I think I really grew in the Lord because of my old friends. We would compete with each other to see who could memorize the be attitudes, the 10 commandments, and the books of the Bible just to name a few. I don't feel I know much more about the Bible now than I knew then. I try to memorize new Bible scriptures on my own but it just doesn't feel the same.

Sometimes when I say Hi to a person they just look at me like I am crazy. I might be a little bit of an overzealous Christian. I make so many people mad because I just start talking about Jesus with anybody. How much time should I spend on my appearances? I don't have many friends because I am told I am too ugly to be friends with most of the females I know. But none of the guys wants to be "just friends" (it is kind of uncomfortable to be friends with someone who whistles when you walk in the room).

The advices you gave was really good and maybe my desire for friends is in my flesh tank not my spiritual tank. I don't think God created me to make friends.

by: Anonymous

well, I feel depressed with past regrets the emptiness is kiling me.. and won't let me move on..

I don't know if I'll ever stop
by: Married

Here is the truth......I'm addicted to porn (str8 & bi) and I don't know how to stop or if I ever will be able to. I'm depressed and tired of my bad habits (condition). When I was 18 or so I had an ongoing sexual relationship with a black man (I had agirlfriend) and I'm now 36 and married, but I can't stop looking at images that remind me of that. It's as if I liked it and still crave it. I feel like dying inside. Don't get me wrong, I love my wife and am attracted to her physically. I am a "leader" at my church but I know I'm a hypocrite and lying to my wife. Though thruthfully I've been faithful (sexually). Just my mind and eyes cause me to desire women and you know. Please help me I'm all messed up and need to come back to Jesus like when I first gave my heart and soul to Him 8 years ago, please. I feel trapped, I do good for a while and then relapse. I love God, I love the Lord so much and that's why I hate myself. I want to stop and be whole for the rest of my adult life. Thank you and God bless you.

You are Blessed
by: Anonymous

God says;

“If you remain in me and follow my teachings, you can ask anything you want and it will be given to you”. (John 15:4)

This verse tells us, we can ask God for anything we want if we remain in Him. This is possible when what we want, becomes joined with what God wants as we mature in Him. The goal of every true believer is to be one with God. This happens spiritually when we are born again, and it happens in our mind, will and emotions as we continue to grow and mature in God.

As we do so, what we want becomes what God wants and we are safe in following them.
To remain in God is to “hang out” with Him. To spend time with Him, live in God’s presence and live for Him, obey and nature the desires He puts in your heart, because that is His will for you. God speaks and puts desires in our hearts so that we would pray and ask for those things He wants to give us.

God will be faithful to give us our desires as long as they are also His desires and as long as we abide in Him. Hang with God; He is a companion. By:Joyce Meyer.

To beth
by: Anonymous

Hey Beth. I understand how you feel because i just went through a break up as well. I understand how memories bond and how it feels and sometimes you just need someone to be there and to hug you and talk to you. I struggled so much after my boyfriend and i broke up. I backslided like mad when i was with him. it was like i had everything and God just wasn't in the picture because i have all that i needed. My boyfriend was my everything. When he left, i was devastated. Broken. It was only in my brokenness, when i have nothing left, i went back to God. take a look at Luke 15:11-32. God has been waiting like the father in the story and He ran to catch me. Yet, after i went back to Him, i got really angry, bitter and upset during a period. God was so intangible and I remember crying really badly once and telling God, "Last time, when i am in tears, there will always be someone to hug me, to be there. But now, i have nothing. You can't do that. It's not enough!" And then after that, i sense this warmth and electrical surges within me and the warmth at my back, like someone is hugging me. God came down and He filled me with His presence. Dearest, He longs to do that to You. God has been speaking to me as well. Ask Him to talk to you. Tell Him to talk to you. He will. You are so precious and dear to Him. When He went to the cross, He thought of you. And because He thought of you, He didn't call His angels to rescue Him even though He could because He wants to be with you. Jesus rather die than be separated from you eternally. For a God who went through so much for you, will He not speak to you and hug you if you ask?

When I say I am a Christian
by: Carol Wimmer

Someone posted a copyright infringement below. Here is the original poem which does not violate copyright law.


When I say, "I am a Christian"
I'm not shouting, "I’ve been saved!"
I'm whispering, "I get lost!
That's why I chose this way"

When I say, "I am a Christian"
I don't speak with human pride
I'm confessing that I stumble—
Needing God to be my guide

When I say, "I am a Christian"
I'm not trying to be strong
I'm professing that I'm weak
And pray for strength to carry on

When I say, "I am a Christian"
I'm not bragging of success
I'm admitting that I've failed
And cannot ever pay the debt

When I say, "I am a Christian"
I don't think I know it all
I submit to my confusion
Asking humbly to be taught

When I say, "I am a Christian"
I'm not claiming to be perfect
My flaws are all too visible
But God believes I'm worth it

When I say, "I am a Christian"
I still feel the sting of pain
I have my share of heartache
That’s why I seek God’s name

When I say, "I am a Christian"
I do not wish to judge
I have no authority...
I only know I'm loved

Used by Permission ©1988 Carol Wimmer

by: Anonymous

I feel so empty with god

To Anonymous
by: Heather

I am so sorry you feel that way! Please know that you can contact me and I am willing to listen and help where I can.

I also encourage you to watch Shelley's video about her broken cup story here.

When I went through Jeremiah 17v5 to 8.
by: Moloko

It completed me completely, it changed the way I think and the way I do things. I feel that if I keep on meditating this specific scripture my life will never be the same.

by: Linda




I don't know if I'm Christian or not
by: Anonymous

I have accepted Him as my Savior and when I did, I rejoiced but that was when I was young. Years later, now a teen, I don't have that desire in me to read the Bible or even pray. I always question my faith. Did I tempt myself thinking that I was a Christian when I wasn't? I always rely on people to answer my questions, I never run to face God to answer them. Please someone help!!

RE: Anonymous
by: Heather Hart

Hi Anonymous. Can I just say, "I've been where you are"?

I remember crying out to God because I was lonely. I knew He was supposed to be enough, but that didn't stop me from feeling alone. If anything, it made me feel worse because He wasn't enough. So, please know you are not alone.

That said, my heart breaks for your because I don't have an easy answer for this one. What changed for me was when I met more Christians. When I started surrounding myself with people who loved Jesus, it changed everything. I saw their love for Him, and I wanted to love Him more. I wanted to know more about Him. But when you don't have those Christian encouragers in your life, it is hard. When you don't see faith as a relationship lived out, it's hard to really grasp what that means. It was years before I developed the personal relationship with Jesus that I wanted. Not because I didn't want it, but because I didn't know what it looked like. Not really.

All that said, I'll pray for you. God can do immeasurably more than we ask or imagine. He may have something ready for you I could never think of.

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