Teenage Cutting - What It Is and How to Get Self Injury Help
"Battle Scars"by Melisa Steele"When I shove you in my vein you suck out all the pain…" This sad and painful quote was found on a self injury help message board. But with teenage cutting and to the teenage cutter, when their body hurts it allows them to forget how much their heart hurts. And that’s not how God wants you to feel. You are a beautiful, wonderfully made child of His and "you are precious and honored in His sight and He loves you!" (Isaiah 43:4) He is always shining in our darkness, although sometimes “the darkness has not understood it” (John 1:5)What is Teenage Cutting?Teenage Cutting is a form of self injury that involves deliberately inflicting wounds and cuts on ones body. It is a serious issue and its victims are held captive in a very dark and lonely cell. Most people who self injure are not trying to commit suicide and are not crazy. They just don’t know how to deal with what’s going on in the inside of them, where as a physical wound is something they can see and gives them something to tend to. They see the physical pain as easier to cope and deal with. Teens that self injure will feel as if they are nothing, that they don’t matter and that no one cares for them or what they are going through. They have a hard time expressing their emotions because the enemy has made them feel ashamed and they cut themselves in an attempt to deal with other problems they are having – to them it is a release. Yes, to its victims cutting releases tension, stress, and anger, to some it is a release for everything. If they are having a bad day or if they feel they have messed up cutting can make everything feel ok and they can stop beating themselves up about it. Besides providing a release cutting will sometimes offer an atonement making them feel as if they have punished themselves for what they did or how they feel. For those experiencing self-hatred touching their wound will remind them of what they have done and that they are not allowed to hate themselves. Their feelings and guilt will seem to float out on the blood leaving them feeling calm. The scars will often help them to feel like their pain is real. To them it is like a battle scar reminding them that they have been through something and no one can tell them otherwise. When they hurt enough to injure themselves it means they were in emotional pain. Deep inside many hide pain. I encourage anyone experiencing these feelings to call to the Lord and He will answer; Cry out to help from Him and He will say, Here I Am (Isaiah 58:9 ) I also want to express that you are not alone. You are never alone, that’s just what Satan wants you to believe. Who is Impacted?Self injury does not discriminate and self injurers come from all walks of life. People who harm themselves can be male, female, straight, gay, or bisexual; they can be doctors, high-school dropouts or high-school students; rich, poor or from any country in the world. Self injury is an addiction that affects 3 million Americans, 2 million of whom purposely cut or burn themselves. Teenage cutting begins at the average age of 14, in fact 90% of self injurers start at roughly this age. More than half of self injurers are victims of abuse, and most report emotionally abusive or neglectful childhoods. The most common adult injurers are in the profession of are teacher, nurse and manager. But "God is your hiding place: He will protect you from trouble and surround you with songs of deliverance." Psalm 32:7 One Girl's Story...Self-Injury Help - How to deal with Teenage CuttingSelf injury is a cycle. Not only is it a way to release emotions, but it can also become a physical addiction as well. That is one reason it can be so hard to quit. Some who have been involved in self injury say they actually feel physical withdrawals when trying to stop. Therefore, like drugs and alcohol, self injury can become an addiction. And as you could have guessed there are better ways to deal with troubles than self-injury cutting and although cutting can be a difficult pattern to break, it is possible. With God all things are possible. (Matthew 19:26) The First Step...The first step with any addiction is to admit you have a problem and need help. I encourage you to come to God and ask for His help. Cry out to Him and share your pain with Him. You may need to ask for forgiveness.... and don't forget about forgiving yourself as well. However, don't allow the enemy to get you caught up in a cycle of shame and feeling bad about yourself. True guilt is different from shame. Shame says, "I'm a bad person" and that's not true. You are loved by God no matter what you've done or what's been done to you. Once you're ready to make a change, you have to decide if you're willing to change directions. Tell SomeoneThe hardest step is telling someone. This will take courage but once you find someone you trust and confide in them you will feel a great sense of relief. If verbally telling someone is too difficult you can always write a note. If the person you tell doesn’t offer assistance, tell someone else. Adults have the tendency to downplay issues and problems often classifying it as just a phase. There are people who will listen. Who can you tell? Here are some ideas of who you can talk to:
There are also free Christian hotlines, Like Door of Hope 4 Teens (1-888-HOPE-307), available to talk to people who understand. Some people choose to use the internet but even though the internet makes possible what hasn't been possible before by bringing people with similar situations together please be careful as there are sites out there whose only intentions are keeping you caught up in the cycle of self injury. You May Benefit from CounselingTrying to figure out the cause of cutting yourself may be tough...
Many people have trouble figuring this part out on their own. But there is no shame in getting professional help to overcome the problem- this does not mean that you are weak! Therapists and counselors are trained to help people discover inner strengths that help them heal. These inner strengths can then be used to cope with life's other problems in a healthy way. There are also churches that offer prayer, encouragement and support groups. The Lord will guide your steps (Proverbs 3:5-6) Work on it, there is a lot to dealing with past hurts and finding better ways to handling life’s stresses. Once you identify what triggers your urge to cutting yourself, make a commitment to make the decision, a promise to yourself that you will not follow through with it but replace it with something else instead. Make plans on what this will be so it’s place for the next time you feel the need. Coping SkillsUrges will pass if you wait them out. The more you wait without giving in, the more your urges will decrease over time so try distracting yourself with something – call a friend, take a shower, play with a pet. Walking is a great way to help with any depression and other forms of exercise provide releases from tension. You may also try writing poetry or drawing, these are great ways to get the feelings on the inside out and that’s the goal. You are on a mission to find a new, healthy release to replace the painful, hurtful one you’ve grown accustomed to. Those who sow in tears will reap with songs of joy. He who goes out weeping, carrying seed to sow, will return with songs of joy, carrying sheaves with him. (Psalm 126:5-6) Click here for a complete list of 117 healthy coping skills ResourcesI don't know all that each of you are going through and the pain you hold inside. But, there are people who do.
How Can I Help My Friend?If you know someone who is struggling with self-injury cutting do not approach them with anger, that is the last thing they need. Do not turn your back on them, they need you...more than you know. Be kinder than usual to everyone you meet for everyone is going through some kind of battle.However, do not feel like you have to carry this burden alone. Make sure to tell a trusted adult (teacher, guidance counselor, youth pastor, etc.) to find help and support for your friend. You are not meant to carry this alone. You are not aloneWe also would like to pray for you and support you. So send us your prayer requests.
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Have you or a friend of yours struggled with cutting or self injury? If so, tell us your story and get encouragement from those who care. Other People's Stories...Click below to read other's stories of how God is at work in their lives. The Pain of Luke-Warm I have been through a lot in the 14 years i have been alive, and i have seen my friends and been with them when they were going through worse. Most, if ... ADDICTED i'm 14 and Ive been cutting myself for a really long time now and i cant seem to stop myself. i like the way i feel when i cut myself (relieved), but i ...
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I found this website because I needed to get my story out there with it being anonymous. And I thank whoever put up this site. Scared To Be Me I'm fifteen and I cut myself. that's my story. Did I mention that my friends make fun of me for it? they tease me, call me stupid, make me show other people,...
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so im 13 and in 8th grade. i found this site because i typed in cutting on google.. Pain to heal pain My life has been rough and confusing. I started cutting and burning myself when I was 12. I'm 21 now. It's not an everyday thing or even a weekly activity,... i hate when i cut i always cut because my parents are going through the divorce stage it hurts and i hate that i cut
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I am 38 years old, I have 3 kids, a great husband, and a pretty good life. So why do I cut? And why do I hate myself for doing it? BLOODY LOVE IS MY ANSWER I am 14 years old and my cuts aren't very big, not at all. What I would do was take a little blade and run it over my skin several times. I didn'... There was no other way, but with God, maybe I can go on. I had a proper rubbish childhood. Like my dad used to batter me, my mum, and my sisters all the time. I could never do anything right. From being about ... Once You Start Cutting, It's hard to stop. It all started in the 7th grade. It's a long story. I stopped in 8th grade for a bit. I was cutting on my upper legs, my first attempt was a razor blade ... Cutting, Suicide and Finding Freedom Back in seventh grade, I got into an awful fight with my only friend. I fell into a deep depression, so I wanted to end it all. I started cutting my wrist,... i cut my self to take away the pain I started cutting my self when i was diagnosed with ocd and a sign of Schizophrenia , ocd is the worst thing that has ever happened to me its ruined my ... a friend who tried to be there my name is Katelyn and i have a friend named Josh. he is a cutter. i had a crush on him scene 5th grade and were in 9th, so if you can count that's 4 years ...
My (Long) Story
It started out as biting myself. I'm not sure why, but whatever. I craved the pain.
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I know this may be long, but i need to tell the full story, to someone. help to stop cutting please! I don't get why I cut myself. I'm 13 and cut myself alot. I have so many scars up my leg and on my wrist, it's gross. When I'm mad I cut myself and it ... My Sister Cuts Herself I am a foster child and i have a foster sister who cuts herself. she has been through a lot and i wish i knew how to help her! sometimes i hate her, but ... cutting and the pain hi my name is corina and i am 13 year old and in the 8th grade i have been looking for way to stop the cutting but it is hard my friend said to stop and ...
My life my pain and self injury
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My Teen Cutting Story
I am 14 and I have cut for the past year. How many scars will be left? Thirteen, outcasted, alone. Everything was going wrong, it all just seemed so hopeless. I remember the day when I injured myself for the first time. I ... My years as cutter, and my journey through When I was in fifth grade I cut for the first time, and only that one time. But once I started sixth grade, I began doing it more regularly. I went through ... I Feel Too Much... I was 10 years old when my mother asked me if I thought she should divorce my father. I didn't know what divorce was. After she explained it to me, I thought ...
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Im Jessica, im 12 years old. Growing up with pain - my cutting addiction My name is Katherine and I'm 16. Growing up, my parents weren't always the nicest to each other. My past bugs me a lot and sometimes I feel jealous when ... Self Injury (SI) trying to recover I have been working extremely hard for the past few months to quite cutting. I have thrown out my raiser blades that I used to cut and am now doing it ... A New Way to Deal I was molested by my grandfather from the time I was 7 till the age of 10. I never really thought it affected me till i got into high school and saw the ... A cutter's life Ever since i can remember I used some form of SI (self injury) to cope with my feelings. I was always the girl who was "perfect" and always had a "smile"... Secrets Not told Hi, Im a "cutter" I guess you could say,It surprises myself how I ended up on this website. I think its because Im tired of crying and cutting all the ... Cutting - what once was my silver savior my name is Stephanie and Im 15 years old.Most of my childhood memories consist of mommy popping pills and daddy yelling, but then someone would take ... Hurt - a cutter's story ok lets see i started cutting when i was like 13 and it was becuz my step grandfather had molested me and my sister and i was only 5 and then came my cousin ... my cutting story i am 13 and i started cutting this year. I had just gotten back from spending the summer with my aunt. I had a hard, stressing summer and I had also gained ... Six years of teenage cutting My name is Jennifer, I'm 19. I started cutting myself when I was 13. I had been through some traumatic issues in my life at a very young age. I didn'... Self harm...you can beat it! I first started cutting when i was 12 years old, my mums marriage had just broken up with my step-dad due to a very violent relationship. Our family was ... cutting I'm 14 years old and I started cutting when I was about 12. my parents fight all the time. my dad has been kicked out of my house at least three times,... My secrets I'm Steph. I'm 13. The first time I thought of suicide, I was 9. A year later, the thought came again. At 11, suicide was all I thought about. I went hiking ... Confused teenage cutter I've been cutting every since I was 13 February 14th of 2008. I started cutting because my parents never listened to me and would always talk bad about ... Self-Inflicted Misery I am 20 years old now, and self-harm is still part of my life. It's the worst feeling knowing that relapse is just around the corner and that it won't ... Why do I cut myself? I hate my life why? do I do this to my self is like if i want to die but the true is that i do not want to die. people ask me why? why i do this...i tell them 'why - because ... Cutting I am 13 and my mom and dad abuse me and have ever since I can remember. I cut myself because it makes me feel good and I can forget about all of my emotional ... Cutting! I started cutting when I was 13 years old. I did it because I thought I had tried everything & nothing was helping. I knew for a fact cutting wasn't right,... I'm a teenage cutter For as long as I can remember I've always been the odd one out. In elementary school I was picked on daily & it only got worse when I got into middle school.... My self harm i first started self harming when i was 15. i had a bad experience when i was young and it kept on playing on my mind. i felt as if everybody hated me ... I cut myself to see who cared I used to cut myself, but it wasn't just because I did not know how to deal with my emotions, it's because I wanted to see who cared enough to stop me.... My cutting struggle I'm 15 years old I've been depressed since I was 12ish I started cutting when I was 13. I was in a bad place my granddad was sick, my mom had been told ... Lost - my cutting story I am so lost right now. I moved when I was ten and it was a horrible experience. I fell into a deep depression that I've been in for 4 years now. I'm only ... My story about self harm I am 16 years old and I started self harming myself at 14. When I was 14 I was sexually abused by my cousin. It was the worst thing in my life. On top ... I am a regular cutter It started at the beginning of 8th grade. My mom had an affair and I was left with my dad brother and sister. I fought a lot with my dad and siblings.... My teenage cutting story I'm Catherine & I'm currently fifteen years young. I started hurting myself when I was thirteen, after an out of control night of sneaking out of my house ... Struggling with self injury I'm struggling with self-injury. Actually I want stop doing it, but it's not that easy. At the moment I've got the feeling that I'll never be free. And ... Down the wrong road in life! When i was 13, i found out for sure that i was raped at a younger age. i couldnt realy remember it, i just had nightmare after nightmare. So when I found ...
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First of all I want to say: You don't want this.
I want to tell someone but i cant break my parents hearts again.
Ok well this is kind of hard for me to come out with as i never tell anyone anything but i do want help now, Perfect Girls and Lonely Worlds When I was in my freshman year of high school, some of the girls in my class cut themselves. This was nothing new, of course. I've seen it all happen. Girls ... Too much pain in life! I am only 10 years old but i cut, badly.I went through puberty in third grade and i started getting acne. My brother makes fun of me for having zits but ... Life is so hard to live, but if you set a goal you can achieve it.... I was 13 when i began to started to cut. My adoptive parents didnt know I was cutting until one day I wore a short sleeve shirt. I would always where long ... Suicide of a close friend. Once upon a time, there was a little town called erlanger, with a little street named Center street. There was a little girl named Krista. She was a annoying ... abuse to self harm i was only 13 years old when i was first sexually abused by one of my dads mates from work. in the beginning i thought it was all my fault because i used ... angels story of cutting im 16 and Ive been cutting since i was 13. i stopped when i was 14 but recently started again. just a few weeks ago my mum found the cuts on my wrist ... Cutting and burning myself I started cutting and burning myself at the age 12 almost 13. I started cutting and burning myself because I thought no one was there for me. I thought ... The whole story... It all started when my grandma died one night,I was being mean to my parents and was having friend trouble. I reacted so badly because it had been happening ... i've sucessfully stopped cutting when i was about 14, i started to get really depressed. so i found cutting my own body as an escape. nobody ever knew. i was always happy. i have lots ... yup - freedom from cutting i dont do it anymore but i started cutting myself when i was in 6th grade and didnt stop until i was in eight grade. i already know why i started and ... My cutting story I did it under pressure of having to be there for so many people and not being there for myself or giving the people the impression I was okay , when I ... Stop teenage cutting When I first saw him, he did look different. He looked secluded, alone, and I want to help him. Im a Christian, and I wanted to help him find God too, but ... DONT GIVE UP! i know that its long but just read it. I AM A PAINFUL HEARTBROKEN CUTTER OF 4 YEARS. I HAVE CUT ALMOST EVERYDAY. ITS LIKE I CANT EVER FIND HAPPINESS IN MY LIFE ANYMORE. I HAVE LOST MY FATHER ... God Eases the Pain Well when I first came to this section of the website I was very scared and hesitant to click this link. I had just moved to a new school, a Christian ... Family and God Saved Me from Cutting I used to cut. it was so hard on me emotionally not just physically. I tried my best to keep it a secret. But my sister ended up finding out and telling ... living my life on an edge my life began bad. the rest of my life was worse. As a young child i was physically abused by my mother and as a release i started cutting. it felt good ...
It started with a Cross...
My name is Abbi. Im 17 now, and even though I am still young I have been through what seems to me a life time of troubles. What is wrong i was sexually molested when i was 9 and my mom hates me and doesn't want me around. so when i was 11 i started to cut so then i was put on meds and that ...
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