where do I find strength

my ex of 11 years dumped me for another woman who has money 2years ago I now live with my sick mom who has(demetia/amputated toe) I was so depressed about the break up that I lost my good paying job and I lost my home. (I know its my fault for being weak) I just didn't see it coming. The problem is since I am at my moms house he has been coming around me to sleep with me and acting like he loves me and he isn't about just sleeping with me, even taking me to Dr's appts... this just tears me up because afterwards I feel like gum on a shoe. I have dated but been used by them also (they only want to sleep with me to) so I end back in his arms feeling like he is the best. I pray and pray for God to keep me strong and have me stop thinking he'll be back and just let me let it go for my King to come my way so I can love him . On Sat I told him I can't continue to do this cause he'll call me sounding so happy and I sound so down(and I don't like to be down a lot, (but lately its like my cup is full) because I am not happy. So he hasn't called and I'm glad cause when he does I always give in. - and why should I deal with a man who sees me once a week maybe two for 1 hour and a text here and there its not worth it. I'm a fool!!"

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Not a Fool
by: Anonymous

You are not a fool, nor are you alone, so many of us women are emotionally wrecked, that even when we know what is wrong we accept it. I offer you the words of God that in our time of weakness he will be our strength...Isaiah 40:29 states it this way "He giveth power to the faint; and to them that have no might he increases strength"

Learn to trust in Him and believe that He is the best Comforter of all...give yourself over to Him, when you are weak and want to give in call on Him. Remember that we are frail but He is strong, if you give HIM your sorrow, and defeat, and even your weakness, He'll take it the ashes of your life and make it beautiful.

In closing remember that NO is an answer in and of itself...don't entertain your old friend, just say NO.

The Lord loves you and so do I. NOW accept this love, and mix it with the love you have for yourself and increase in strength.

My Sister and dear friend in the LORD you are fearfully and wonderfully made, the beauty of the LORD is upon you...So Arise and live this bountiful life that GOD has prepared for you.

by: Ermine

You talk to better than some of the people who have been suppose friends talk to me. Thank you for the time....No means No.

Verses to meditate on
by: Sarah

Please choose your friends wisely also. I pray that God give you wisdom to choose your friends, those who will encourage you and give you courage and support. I pray that God will bring good Godly friends to surround and support you in your time of need, to listen to you and be able to identify and give you strength from the Lord. It is important that you spend time with people who love you and truly care for you.

Whatever has happened in the past is past. You can choose to let go of it today. You can choose to give it to God. Because He takes our burdens, He takes our troubles and He carries them for us.

Matthew 11
28"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."

You are a beloved child of God, His creation. You were fearfully and wonderfully made by God, and He loves you more than you can imagine. He has plans for your life and wants to give you a future, a much better future than you have now or can imagine. He does not want you to be stuck in your situation, but He will give you the strength and the help to overcome, if you ask of Him.

Proverbs 8:17
I love those who love me, and those who seek me find me.

Jeremiah 29:13
You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.

Matthew 7:8
For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.

Jeremiah 29:11
For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

You ask "Where do you find the strength?"

The answer is in God, my dear sister. God gives us strength.

Isaiah 40
28 Do you not know?
Have you not heard?
The LORD is the everlasting God,
the Creator of the ends of the earth.
He will not grow tired or weary,
and his understanding no one can fathom.

29 He gives strength to the weary
and increases the power of the weak.

30 Even youths grow tired and weary,
and young men stumble and fall;

31 but those who hope in the LORD
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint.

Do meditate on these verses and ask the Lord to come into your life and to speak to you and to help you right now.

You need to know that you are right with God because of Jesus, and you do not need to do anything to earn His favour. He will forgive all of your sins when you ask Him. And He will give you strength to say no to this man who is just using you.

Praying for you. Keep praying!

In Christ,

where do I find strength II comment to Sarah
by: Ermine

I pray to GOD everyday throughout the day, I know about God Sarah, but I asked GOD why have I been going through trails since 2001 I also took care of this man and grew him to be a man, when he climbed the ladder, I was steadliy going down, always a money problem would occur and he got tired of paying bills.and us owning things, so I am jealous I guess cause he got another woman with a good job, two cars, her house only 1 child, and they can travel and she can help him pay his moms nursing home fee.So when he met me I had it like that from my previous marriage, when I started working I paid everything girl, 11 yrs....I just wish God would bless me financially to pay my debts, and I can take my lil fanily places and out to eat, I stay inside 24/7 work home......I can't believe I lost my good paying job for this guy, I got another job 1 year now I thank the Lord for it but it pays low....sometimes I feel I might lose my mind.

re: Hold Fast
by: Anonymous

It seems to me you have been bitten by a vampire/a blood sucking parasite that used you as a host...it's only thought more blood....

Your life energies were spent on building up someone other than yourself & your relationship with the FATHER, at your expense you paid the full load, with benefits & perks....my suggestion to you now is BE-COME your own work of art. Invest all your love, strength energy, and focus into improving you & building your relationship with the FATHER...You & the FATHER are well worth the investment. It is so time to fall in love with you & the FATHER once again....remember what the Bible said, Love the Lord with all your heart, soul and spirit and love your neighbor as yourself.Ermine you were always included in this command, now obey GOD and live.
What I am trying to say to you is this it is not that you have already attained that which you are seeking GOD for, but the one thing you must do is forget those things that are behind you,those sins that so easily entangle you and press toward the mark of the prize in Christ Jesus...Ermine it's time for you to begin again...you can do it in HIS strength, for GOD clearly stated its not by your power, nor by your might, but by HIS Spirit.
My prayer for you today is that the pain and stain of yesterday will be blotted out of your emotions and mental well-being, that you would forgive yourself, and ask GOD to forgive you for allowing your ex to occupy HIS place as KING in your heart. Turn again to your first LOVE JESUS. Jesus will never leave you, nor forsake you He will be with you forever always. Holdfast to HIS unchanging, uncompromising, never failing love.

To Ermine: Strength to make it. through.
by: Darla

Anger. Hostility. Blame. Distortion.

"Mike, I don't get it, can you explain?"

Absolutely amigo, let's go.

Some people have been hurt.

Some people have been emotionally wounded.

Some people have lost a sense of trust.

Some people haven't gotten what they truly need.

Everyone, you, me, has been influenced by our past.

We have been.

Both good and not so good.

We know this.

Let me share with you an idea that too many people are
grasping onto.

Too many people are bringing the pain of a past
relationship or past wound to the present day.

It has distorted WHO they can be today.

It has drained their power and their energy today.

It's holding hostage their true greatness and natural

Maybe you're bringing a past pain from your parents to

Maybe you're bringing past pain from an old relationship.

Maybe you were hurt by a friend and now you have trouble
trusting others.

We know this, though I have to say it anyway.

When we bring our past wounds to today, WE get hurt, NOT
the person who hurt us.

We lose our power.

We lose the moment.

If you're reading this right now, you can use this moment
to change your life.

You can tap into the POWER OF FORGIVENESS.

You can make a decision, right now, to drop 10-20 pounds or
more of mental weight.

Mental baggage.

Forgive your Mom. Forgive your Dad. Forgive your brother.
Forgive your sister.

Forgive your friend or whoever hurt you.

Stop hurting yourself. You have other's waiting for your
gifts. They need you to drop the past wounds and focus on
developing your talents.

Yes, it isn't always easy. Though, we should LOVE OURSELVES
enough to let go and go forward.

Many people would be amazed if they truly saw how much 'old
stuff' they're holding onto.

Socrates said, "The unexamined life isn't worth living."

What can you let go of?

How can you step into your God given gifts, talents, and power?

Personally, I think the world desperately needs men and women of STRENGTH.

Strong, courageous, and fearless individuals who are ready to unleash their greatness.

Ermine, how about tapping into the power of
forgiveness today. Give it a try.

There are new levels of power, education, and profit that want to enter your life right now. First though you need to make 'mental' room for it.

I believe in you. You and I know your best days are ahead of you.

True or very true?

Ermine you are A WINNER!

Dear Ermine
by: Sarah

Dear Ermine,

I know it's not easy. It's much easier just to say all these things to you, and to write verses here for you to read, than for you to actually go through what you are going through.

We may not know why God puts us in certain situations, but we must believe that He is capable of bringing us out. That He is our strength. What is incomprehensible to the world, is what we believe in. That when we are weak, then God can show His perfection.

Let's not look at the past, and why this has happened, or why that has happened. Let's instead look and focus our eyes, heart and mind on God, on our wonderful Father and Saviour, and ask Him, where does He want to bring us from here onwards.

He promises that when we seek Him, we will find Him. And I believe that He hears all your prayers, every single one of them. This may be a tough period for you, to be waiting, with seemingly no direction, but God will work in His good timing. And His timing and His plan is always the best, so keep believing in Him. Let not your faith in Him be shaken by your situation.

I feel God wants to strengthen you with His own strength. And that you will come out of this victorious, because He will make you victorious.

We are only human, and we will make mistakes, we will be concerned about our well being, we will still face temptations and fall into sin at times. But we must continually check ourselves, and really lift every part of our life in total surrender to God, and say God, here is my life, take all of my life, every part of it, take it and do as you please.

Every part of our life has a purpose. We have a purpose to know God, to love God, and to love others, and to be more like Christ in every way. Focus on the purpose that God has given you.

When you seek God first, He will bless and provide for your every need. And you will be a great testimony in future. When faith is being tested, there is the opportunity for faith to grow and be strong.

I believe God will bless you, so that you will in turn be able to bless your family and others around you, to show them God's love for you. Try not to think too much about your situation, if you find that it keeps coming up in your mind, try to do other things, pray, read the Word of God, memorize scripture.

The enemy will keep attacking you, but God is with you and He will never leave you nor forsake you. So take heart, and one day you will learn to rejoice, even in your trials, because it is for His greater purpose in your life.

Will keep praying for you Ermine.


by: shaniece

you really arent fool and you are not the only person that feels the way that you feel
this is just a test in your life and God just wants you to trust him and he wants u to relize that he has ur back no matter what you have done and what you are going through
God has not brought you this far in your life just to leave you hangin

*God most likely let the relationship that you had with your husband come to end because ur ex culd have hindered you from doing what God has called you to do

the advice that i have for you is to just find a really good chrisian church to go to where the people that go there are accepting and wont judge you and who can kinda steer you inn the right direction
because face it,as christians we feel that we dont need anybody else to help us but God, and you do need God but you also need people that are called by God to help you through your problems as well
because gurl when you get close to church people and you begin to unite with the people of the Lord, nothing can break you

Ephesians 4:3 says that as children of God we must"make every effort to keep the unity of the spirit through the bond of peace"

and being apart of a church is a way to do that and unifying with the people of God makes it easier to talk about your problems to your pastor with

another thing that i wanted to tell you is that quite honestly you are not ready to dat yet
you are still too emotionally attached to ur ex who has been showing you lately that he really doesnt care, but at least u have decided to end that dysfunctional relationship
and honestly i dont think that you need to be running to a man for comfort, right now you really be shuld be running to God for comfort
if u are faithful to God then he will do one of two things in your life:
1)he will bless you with a man of God who will love you very much
2)he will reveal to you that having a husband/significant other may not be what he had in store for your life

what im just mainly encouraging you to do is to form a strong relationship with God and do what he has called you to do and not what othere people want you to do
take control of your life and the freedom that God has given you
god is taking you through this for a reason
Dont let go

ill pray for you

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