Sexual Feelings Rising

by Samantha

okay so i’m 12 years old and puberty and stuff is making me horny/turned on at night sometimes . thing is i don’t know ... how .. to .. masturbate ?? is that a bad thing ? and i wanna learn about genitalia eras just school and parents and stuff i rarely get alone time . how could i learn how to masturbate and things like that ?


Hey Samantha,

I would highly recommend picking up a copy of Every Young Woman's Battle, because you aren't the only one who's been where you are.

To be honest, I won't answer your question on how to masturbate, because it will make you feel dirty. It might sound exciting and fun, but once you do it, you won't feel like you've been on a grand adventure, you will feel ashamed. That's why no one talks about it. It's not glamorous.

God created sex to be a beautiful thing between one man and one woman. To be a bonding agent between a man and his wife. And when that's what it is it is glorious, but outside of that, it's not.

Yes, when we hit puberty our hormones are raging and our bodies are ready, but sex is more than physical. It's emotional and spiritual. And when we engage too early, even with masturbation, it can have life long consequences. Memories we make can last forever and mar something God created to be beautiful.

So trust me on this one, and pick up a copy of that book. And instead of feeling trapped by your parents, let them know you're growing up. Open up the lines of communication so if you ever need someone to talk to they aren't so startled they shut down.

~ Heather

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Whatever you do don't masturbate
by: Anna

Do you want loads of Shame....guilt...sadness....unfulfilled sexual desires? Anger. Stress. Feeling dirty...and regret years later? Ok step up to the plate and masturbate. Sure it relieves stress for 2 seconds but creates a huge gap inside that cannot be filled and the more you do it the larger the gap inside your soul gets. I've been addicted to this since I was 12 pretty please realize how many times I cried and felt upset over it. I'd do anything to be 12 again and say no. I'm almost 18..., please don't do it. Unless you want regret and pain like me.

i know how you feel
by: Anonymous

I am 12 too and I feel that same way, I have a boyfriend (which didn't help the urge) but most of my best friends have parents who told them everything about that stuff. And I can talk to my friends about that type of stuff when I want to know. It is much easier talking about with them, then with your parents. To start that conversation with your friends, just put this sentence in one of your conversations: "I don't want anyone in my family to give me the talk, but I want to know these type of things." Trust me it works.

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