my bff hates me

by janiesha kelly
(van wert ohio)

i had a friend and we did EVERYTHING together,but all of a sudden i'm a nobody to her, we are not close anymore, but i want to be close again how do i solve this?

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Stay true
by: Heather Hart

The best thing that you could do right now is to be her friend. She may never want to be friends with you agian, but that is up to her. All you can do is make sure that she knows that you will be there if she ever wants to be friends again, or needs somebody to be there for her. Pray for your situation, and for Gods guidance. He maybe trying to teach you something through this, or maybe he is trying to show her just how true of a friend you are. Keep your heart open to him, and pray that his will will be done.

by: Anonymous

If you were once friends then time will tell. The teen years are tough and friendships are tested. People run in different circles, but if you are meant to be friends for life then with time hopefully she will come around again, if not then you take it for what it is and you move on as well. One of the best things you can offer someone is your friendship. It is of great value. There are a lot of other people that would probably love being your friend and maybe you should take them up on that offer. Do not try to get ahead of yourself and worry about this BFF-take your life one day at a time and let the rest be in God's hands.

Unconditional love
by: Sarah

Dear Janiesha,

I guess it must be hard on you, because you don't understand what is going on, and especially what she's thinking.

You should really keep trying to speak with your friend to talk things through. Perhaps it was a misunderstanding, or something that someone else said that caused this to happen. You should speak with her, and truthfully tell her how you feel, that you treasure her friendship very much and wish to be best friends again with her, and that you wish she would share her feelings with you to tell you how she's feeling and why she's feeling that way. It may be even nothing to do with you. It may be something she is going through right now.

God loves you very much. He loves you so much He gave His only begotten son for you to die on the cross for our sins. So that now we can call God our Father. And it is this love that He wishes you to show your family and friends. It is an unselfish, unconditional love, no matter what happens, this love still perseveres and remains.

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."
1 Corinthians 13:4-8

And it is this love that you must continue to show your friend.

The important thing is to look to God for your help and provision and wisdom on how to deal with the matter. Because God is in charge, and He knows your heart. Ask Him to help you. When you give your problems and worries to God, He will give you peace of heart and mind, and you will trust Him to plan and take care of your situation for you.

In Christ,

Friendship is 4ever. Or is it?
by: Holly J.

One time I had a situation where when I moved from California to Oregon I had this friend that i was proud to call my"BFF" then one day when I came back to California she despised me. She didn't want anything to do with. Well my point is what I did was I separated from her, gave her some time to think over her actions actually it was more like a year. Then one day I ran into her on the street she lived on because it just happened that she lives on the same one as my aunt and uncles house. Well I am planning on seeing her again but, my point is what I would like to say is you should let her think over her actions and her previous friendship with me. I think you should give her some time to think about it. It might just be a hormonal teenager mood swing that actually does happen. After a while you might want to approach her after you let her have some time to think over everything.

If you have any questions let me know!

thankx... for you time

P.S. Good Luck!!!

same thing
by: leslie

same thing happened to me i ignored her for a couple days and she came crawling back to me.. trust me if she is a true friend she want stay mad at you for long

I've been there
by: Anonymous

I know exactly how you feel. My best friend dumped me for someone who isn't half the friend I was to her, and I don't like the influence that this other girl is having on my ex-best friend. It really hurt, and while we still talk to each other--occasionally--I miss the days when it was just the two of us. But there's one girl who has been my friend for four years now--almost five--and she's the only person who I've ever really told how I feel about losing my other friend. I've found that this girl is a better friend than my other one was, and through her I'm healing. It still hurts me to see my old friend with her new "BFF", knowing that it used to be ME hanging out with her, but it certainly feels better now that I know there's someone else who can fill her spot in my life. I guess I don't really have any advice for you, but I'm empathizing, and I hope and pray that things will work out for you.

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