i feel lonely

i am a 15 year old girl. okay, so i went out with this guy for a year and 4 and a half months. i was completely in love. but i broke up with him because we would fight over stupid things almost everyday. and i got sick of it. we still talked, and even kissed after that. and i thought we were gonna go back out, like we needed a break or something. but then i hung out with some people, and when push came to shove i ended up making out with this guy. and my ex found out. and he got so angry, and he screamed and yelled and said we would never be together again. but i think i did it only to see if i could have that spark with someone else. and there was none with this guy i had made out with. so, then me and my ex sort of worked things out, and talked again. but then i start hearing rumors that he likes this girl. and this specific girl i hated, because in the middle of my relationship with this guy, he kinda cheated on me. and now i was hearing he liked her ? ugh, so called him up and simply asked "do you have feelings for her ?" and he said "i'm not gonna lie, yes." and i just hung up. i was so upset. then about a month after the break up, he starts going out with this girl. and i called him, and we had a big talk and i told him how i was still in love with him and that i missed him, and he told me he wanted me out of his life, that it was over. and i broke down, i couldn't eat, sleep, or even talk to my friends. i even cut myself. it's just, now he's moved on and i still havent. even though i want to so badly. i've tried so hard, but i just can't deep down. and i'm told he hates me, and that just makes it all worse. what do i do ?

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put a brave face on your pain
by: kelly

I know that this boy is the only thing that matters at the moment to you,you eat ,drink and sleep him.
I wish i could offer you a magic wand,but sadly i cant,you have to find it inside yourself to deal with the pain head on,untill you admit to yourself that its over,the agony your in at the moment is going to continue.
Dont let this boy know that your in a world of pain[even though you are] you must put a brave face on when he's around,otherwise he will know that its getting to you ok.
I know the thought of him with someone else is tearing you up inside sweetheart,but you have to be brave. I promise you that in time the pain will go away,it just needs exactly that TIME.
Trust me ive been where you are now,and i thought i'd never feel right again,but all the crying and pleading in the world will not bring this boy back,in the end you will end up looking silly and thats the last thing you are cause you sound like a really mature and caring young lady to me.
Please dont ever cut yourself again,i know that you know thats not the answer dont you?

He cares for you
by: S'ambrosia

I'm so sorry to hear about all of the pain this relationship has caused you. Let me encourage you to let go. Release the pain to your Father in heaven. Do you realize how much His heart breaks as He watches each and every tear fall from your eyes? He cares for you so much and He wants you to give the whole situation over to Him. Trust Him. The Bible says to cast your cares upon Him because He cares for you. Maybe when you cut you feel a type of release, but it's NOTHING compared to the release you'll feel when you begin to trust God with your problem. Fix your eyes on Jesus, the one who gave up everything to make a way for you to be with Him. That's real love! Don't focus on the guy or what he's doing, just look up. Can I suggest a scripture for you to read? Actually it's a chapter...Psalm 18. David feels like you're probably feeling right now, so he cries out to God. Check out what happens...

Much love and many prayers, dear.

Been There Before
by: Bing

Sweetie, i'm 18 freshly out of high school. I understand the pain of a bad break up. You just have to give yourself more time to get over him, you seem so sweet and caring. If he could not see that then he's not mature enough for you. You can't give up though, your still young you'll have great relationships and relationships that make you feel like life isn't worth living with that one guy you thought was Mr. Perfection, i'm gooing to be honest with you. There is no such man, you can't hurt yourself over him, i've been done that path. I use to cut and just hope that I could cut deep enough to end this miserable and unbearable pain. Just keep your chin up and remember your never alone you awlays have us and God. You will find your Mr. Right when the time comes.


by: lydia

Dear, you've had a heart break just once. I know a lady who was dumped five times. I don't know if you have heard about her. I've never seen her picture, but I'm sure she must have been really pretty! But despite the attention she must have got from the men of her city, deep inside her was an intense desire to be loved that no one seemed to meet. The first "Mr Right" she met swept her off her feet. He was everything she had wanted in a man. Good looking, well placed,and caring- he was the one she wanted to spend her life with. Unfortunately a few months after their wedding things started to sour. Divorce was inevitable. Heart broken and miserable, the young lady fell for the next eligible bachelor, in an attempt to relieve her pain. Guy number two was a user and a loser. It wasn't long before he showed her the door too. How much could she take, you wonder? Apparently, three more! The talk of the town, she was despised, made fun of, shunned, but she didnt care. Or rather she couldn't. Her heart had been broken so many times but it was still searching for love--true love. Every time she thought that she had finally found fulfillment, something happened and it was over. Finally, she met Mr 6. By now she was too fed up of marriages and divorces. So she just moved in with him. She was still empty inside. Thirsty for the love and security that she had never been able to find. She knew she was pretty much what people would call a slut, but she couldnt help it. She had learned about God when she was young, but from what she had learned and for all that she had done, she didnt have a chance with Him.

In her city, they still hadnt got water pipes, so everyone had to collect water from the city's well. But she would go and collect water from a well outside the city because she was so despised. One day, when she went to draw water, she saw a man sitting by the well. He asked her for a drink of water. She was surprised. No one would bother talking to her. But this man was different. His name was Jesus, the Son of God.

waters of life
by: lydia

Here's the actual account from the Bible!

He(Jesus) left Judea and went away again into Galilee. And He had to pass through Samaria. So He came to a city of Samaria called Sychar, near the parcel of ground that Jacob gave to his son Joseph;and Jacob's well was there. So Jesus, being wearied from His journey, was sitting thus by the well. It was about the sixth hour.
There came a woman of Samaria to draw water. Jesus said to her, "Give Me a drink." For His disciples had gone away into the city to buy food. Therefore the Samaritan woman said to Him, "How is it that You, being a Jew, ask me for a drink since I am a Samaritan woman?" (For Jews have no dealings with Samaritans.) Jesus answered and said to her, "If you knew the gift of God, and who it is who says to you, 'Give Me a drink,' you would have asked Him, and He would have given you living water." She said to Him, " Sir, You have nothing to draw with and the well is deep; where then do You get that living water? "You are not greater than our father Jacob, are You, who gave us the well, and drank of it himself and his sons and his cattle?" Jesus answered and said to her, "Everyone who drinks of this water will thirst again; but whoever drinks of the water that I will give him shall never thirst; but the water that I will give him will become in him a well of water springing up to eternal life." The woman said to Him, " Sir, give me this water, so I will not be thirsty nor come all the way here to draw." He said to her, "Go, call your husband and come here." The woman answered and said, "I have no husband." Jesus said to her, "You have correctly said, 'I have no husband'; for you have had five husbands, and the one whom you now have is not your husband; this you have said truly."

by: lydia

The woman said to Him, " Sir, I perceive that You are a prophet. Our fathers worshiped in this mountain, and you people say that in Jerusalem is the place where men ought to worship." Jesus said to her, "Woman, believe Me, an hour is coming when neither in this mountain nor in Jerusalem will you worship the Father.
" You worship what you do not know; we worship what we know, for salvation is from the Jews. "But an hour is coming, and now is, when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth; for such people the Father seeks to be His worshipers. "God is spirit, and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth." The woman said to Him, "I know that Messiah is coming ( He who is called Christ); when that One comes, He will declare all things to us." Jesus said to her, " I who speak to you am He." At this point His disciples came, and they were amazed that He had been speaking with a woman, yet no one said, "What do You seek?" or, "Why do You speak with her?" So the woman left her water pot, and went into the city and said to the men, "Come, see a man who told me all the things that I have done; this is not the Christ, is it?" They went out of the city, and were coming to Him....
From that city many of the Samaritans believed in Him because of the word of the woman who testified, " He told me all the things that I have done." So when the Samaritans came to Jesus, they were asking Him to stay with them; and He stayed there two days. Many more believed because of His word; and they were saying to the woman, "It is no longer because of what you said that we believe, for we have heard for ourselves and know that this One is indeed the Savior of the world."

by: lydia

I know this is a really long one, but finally I just want to say that the same Jesus who satisfied the thirst of that lady's heart can satisfy your heart too. He is alive today, and if you call on His name, He will answer you. You can have your sins forgiven, a new life within you and a new relationship with God, through His Son Jesus. God loves you so very much.

"For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life. "For God did not send the Son into the world to judge the world, but that the world might be saved through Him. " He who believes in Him is not judged; he who does not believe has been judged already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. "This is the judgment, that the Light has come into the world, and men loved the darkness rather than the Light, for their deeds were evil. " For everyone who does evil hates the Light, and does not come to the Light for fear that his deeds will be exposed. "But he who practices the truth comes to the Light, so that his deeds may be manifested as having been wrought in God."

God made you to be better
by: Sarah

I've read all the above comments to you (I hope you are reading them too!), and I agree with them - that God loves you, cares for you, knows your pains and your thoughts, and that you should focus on God right now.

But I want to say something that may not sound nice, but I think you have to hear this.

I don't think that you have a right attitude towards relationships. Why do I say so? Because you did not do the right thing to make out with a guy just "to see if i could have that spark with someone else". Physical attraction and passion does not equal to true love. You do not choose your future husband or boyfriend based on who gives you sparks, or based on how excited you feel, or how handsome he is, or how he touches you, or how he tells you that you are beautiful. All these are superficial, and they will all pass away. The excitement of "being in love" will fade, and there will be disagreements, quarrels, even after marriage. And the man that you look for must be able to love you, protect you, encourage you to be who God made you to be, build you up as a person, not put you down, and be able to forgive you from his heart when you do something wrong.

In fact the Bible says:

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8a

You will not find complete fulfilment in a boy or any other human being. Because God made us such that we have this longing inside us and we can only be completely fulfilled and satisfied in a right relationship with our Heavenly Father.

And that's why you feel lonely. It's not because of this boy. It is because you need God in your life and your heart. If you would let God in, He will show you what true love is.

True love is not about possessing someone, it is a choice to love even when the other person is unlovable. It is a loving decision more than a fuzzy feeling.

You see, this boy does not love you, and he doesn't know what love is. And you should not devote your attention and energy to him. Instead, let God into your heart. Ask Him for forgiveness for all the sins that you have commited. We all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. This is what God says.

And when you have a right and close relationship with God, you will find a fulfilling, meaningful and satisfying life. You will find freedom. You will know how to love others with the love of God and God will bring a Godly man to you, who He has already planned for you a long time ago. In fact, God already has planned your whole life for you. It is up to you to obey.

I know all this, and I can tell you all this, because I have been through all this. So, if God is speaking to you today, don't hesitate. You need Him.

In Christ,

good word
by: Anonymous

Amen Sarah!

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