He Makes Me Feel...

by Megan
(NC, Hendersonville, USA)

I dated this guy 4 months ago and he was really special... at the time. He showed me intimacy very passionately that i absolutely loved. I fell for it, after a while he became very sexual, then it came to where I wanted to have sex too. That dang intimacy had gone to my head! We were about to, but...

i broke up with him a day before. He told me he would stop if i didn't want to do it, and that was something i was going to do until that moment. Yet, i knew that i shouldn't put myself in a situation like that.

Ever since we've been talking and at times i want to go back out with him. That's when he's not being a big, fat jerk. Yet, now he's playing these jealousy games like a little boy. He's always talking about other girls and at times when i fall for it, he goes off on an other girl right after. Which hurts me. Plus, like tonight he told me about how this prep from my school gave him her number on his myspace, i don't really care much for preps. They always give me mean looks and remarks. Anyways, it really hurt when i said "She's pretty", but then he went, "She's beautiful!".

He always called me beautiful until now. I feel worthless and wanting to cry. Now he's always being really annoying about these girls and how much more beautiful they are.

I know that GOD TRULY LOVES ME but why do i feel like this? What do i do? I've always been a very strong woman until now!

Thanks and please help!

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dont lose your faith-believe in your own strength
by: kelly

Can i begin by telling you that does not hate you,he sends us all certain trials to deal with,thats all part of lifes path.
It is nothing to feel shame about because you felt an urge or desire towards a member of the opposite sex,if anything you should give yourself a pat on the back,i for one do not know many girls who would have the strength and courage to remove themselves from that situation,because it didnt feel right for you at that time.
As for the way he is behaving,thats perfectly normal for a boy of his age-you are right he is trying to make you jelouse,this is because he obviously still has a lot of unresolved feelings for you,this is probablly the only way he knows how to deal with all his emotions that he cant explain.
You sound as though you are a very mature young girl,i suggest you talk your feelings through with this boy one and one,and explain to him that his behaviour is hurting you,i'm allmost posotive that this will put an end to it.
Please dont lose your faith in god-he is listening to your pleas he has given you the strength to deal with this.

You are valuable
by: S'ambrosia

It's totally understandable that you feel this way, so don't feel like you're suddenly a weak person because of your current situation. The more intimate you become with someone, the harder it is to detach yourself from them when the romantic relationship ends (which, btw, I'm so glad that you chose to end the relationship when you did *hooray*). We females are pretty emotional beings, so your emotions are all tangled up in this guy, and he obviously knows it because he's playing with them. The relationship seems to have become what I would call "toxic." It's not helping you, it's hurting you. The next step is a hard one but I know you're strong enough to do it... I would suggest cutting off contact with him for a while. You said it best yourself when you said that God truly loves you. Take some time to let God tell you how beautiful you are so that you don't feel worthless when this guy, or anyone else, doesn't say it. You ARE beautiful because God has put so much precious value inside of you. Trust and believe that, and don't let any guy ever make you think different!

He Makes Me Feel...
by: Anonymous

I am sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but all this guy is interested in is getting in your pants and he is acting immature because you have turned him down. This is not a fault of his, he has been shaped by his environment and society to believe that this is what a relationship is all about.

You sound very confused and in lust as I am sure such thoughts are clouding your decisions. Do not be pressured into sexual activity as once you become intimate with someone you have soul ties with the other person which is even harder to get off your mind.

Take it to God in prayer, speak to God with sincerity just like you have expressed in here and he will surely guide and change your feelings as they should be, if only you know your worth...you will cherish it

Something to think about...
by: cameo

Does he add to you or subtract you?
This is something which applies not only boys but also any friend.
A person should make you feel special, treat you well and help you to grow. They shpuld bring out qualities that you never knew you had. Does he?
Think about this verse:
1 Corinthians 13:4-5 (The Message)
Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn't want what it doesn't have.
Love doesn't strut,
Doesn't have a swelled head,
Doesn't force itself on others,
Isn't always "me first,"
Doesn't fly off the handle,
Doesn't keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn't revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.

?How does this guy treat you in relation to this?
?Could he tick many boxes?
?Do you deserve how he's treating you?

Just something to think about....:)

Do You Want Me To?
by: Megan

Hey it's the writter of this story and i just wanted to personally say thanks for you comments. I feel stronger and comforted by all of your words. (Even the one that said it straight out truthful. LOL) Yet, THERE'S ANOTHER PART TO THE STORY! I VERY much need help from you very wise, comforting friends, but i don't want to waste anything on your time or on Shelly's page. If you want me to continue of what is going on now,
please comment and let me know!
Thanks and God Be With You!

by: S'ambrosia

You're not wasting anyone's time. Go ahead!

Go ahead!
by: cameo

Sure, love to hear it!

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