Can you be in a relationship with someone who has not repented

by Genevieve
(South Africa)

Can a guy / girl who has repented and is walking with Jesus be in a relationship with a guy / girl who has not repented? Why?


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Can they? Should they?
by: Diane


CAN someone who's repented and walks with Jesus date a nonbeliever? Well, yes they can.

That's where the term "missionary dating" comes from--when we date a nonbeliever hoping to bring them to Christ. Sometimes it works, but not very often.

See, when we move from friendship to dating, we develop a relationship that could compromise what we have with God. That's what happened with me.

I vowed for several years as a Christian that I would never "missionary date."

One day, I met with a man for business and we made an instant connection. We had so much in common, we talked for hours at our first meeting.

After that, I started praying for him and even believed I would lead him to the Lord.

Then one day at church, God told me to give this man up. That was the moment I knew I really cared for this man, and I wasn't ready yet. So I bargained with God.

I talked to that man about his soul, to no avail.
I even convinced him to attend his church with me,
While there, I realized dating was out of the question, so I asked God if I could stay friends with the guy. Know what God said?

It was like He was right in front of me. He lifted His hands in exasperation and said, "You want it? You've got it." Then He backed away. Like He was washing His hands of it.

I toyed with being his friend till we were on a walk about a week later. As we were heading back, I said to him, "You know, in all the time we've talked about God, you never told me about your relationship with Him."

"That," he said, "is between me and God."

That did it. Instantly I felt a steel door slam shut in my soul toward him.

A few days later I wrote him a letter saying why we couldn't see each other anymore.

Part of that letter talked about how 2nd Corinthians 6:14-15 says we're not to be joined in deeper relationships with nonbelievers, not to partner with them. "What do right and wrong have in common? Can light and darkness be friends? How can Christ and Satan agree? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?"

I later heard an evangelist explain it like this: When we do things like that, it's like we've chosen to side with the devil.

As believers, we are Christ's bride, yet when we date unbelievers, it is like we reject Jesus and flirt, tease, have a relationship with the devil.

If we did that to our earthly husbands, it would be an affair. It's the same with Jesus.

I broke His heart when I flirted with the enemy, when I let myself fall for a nonchristian. And I compromised alot, as do so many who try "missionary dating."

So to answer your question, "Can a guy/girl who has repented and is walking with Jesus be in a relationship with a guy/girl who has not repented?" Yes, they can.

Should they? Unless they want to risk breaking God's heart and possibly backsliding or compromising their values, no they shouldn't.

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