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We're Friends. . .Right??

by Brittany
(California)

Ok, so i've had a really great guy friend for about 3 years now. We hang out every now and then..going to starbucks, running together, going to a few amusement parks, school events. its strictly just friend related and i love that, cuz thats exactly what i need right now..is just a friend!

But i think im sensing some flirting coming between me and this guy. And i dont want us to start liking each other, i dont need this kind of distraction coming between me and God. Plus, i just got out of a bad relationship about 4 months ago, and that relationship messed up my relationship with God. Now that im back on track with my Jesus, i dont want to mess it up again. I talked with God and let him know that i strictly just want a me and him relationship, and i dont want someone to come between us again.

This has been on my mind ALOT. Some prayer and maybe some suggestions will help, thx so much :]

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The distraction of boys...
by: Shelley

Brittany,
If you haven't done so yet, I'd recommend reading my article on dating as well as the ones on flirting and guarding your emotions with guys at the links below.

My Dating Story

Teen Flirting

Guarding your emotions

I think you're making a wise decision to wait on another relationship right now, esp. since you just got out of another one that got you off track. Make sure to talk to your guy friend and let him know. But, also guard your heart. (Prov 4:23) This includes your actions toward this guy that may lead him to believe you'd like to be more than friends.

Praying for you,
Shelley

Just Friends
by: Julie

Brittany,
I think it is very mature of you to consider where you stand with this guy. It's a slippery slope once you get going down a path you don't want to go, so take some time to figure out what you think is best for the situation and what God's telling you through prayer, reading, and just listening. I feel like you know what's in your heart about this, so stay true to yourself, and also your friend, by being honest. We all need encouragement though, so know I'm thinking and praying for you!

In Him,
Julie

Only Jesus
by: Fanuel

Praise the Lord!!

We have friends but most of our friends become our friends because of what they can benefit from us. But Jesus is different. He will not come to us because of what he receives from us.

Fanuel

It should be easier
by: A.J.

It's good that you're addressing this before it goes too far. There is nothing wrong with having a boyfriend, contrary to what a lot of people I know say, but if all you want him to be is your friend, then that's all you have to be. Next time you think you're flirting, just stop. Stop flirting. The last thing you want to do is lead him on and then dump him cold turkey. You don't want to hurt him It might be awkward, but you could talk to him and tell him that he's a great friend, but right now you are uncapable of having a boyfriend. Tell him if he's starting to get "feelings" for you, he should put those on hold and be interested in other girls. He's your friend, he'll understand. He should, at least.
However, if it was just you you thought was flirting, just stop and you shouldn't even have to bring this up. But if you do have to give him the talk, rehearse it in your mind several times before you go out and talk to him. And maybe even mentally answer some questions he'll be likely to ask. I'm praying for you. Tell me how it all works out!

With love, A.J.

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