thanksgiving weird


(nebraska)

My cosin was doing drugs and now he's on house arrest. I think that he doesn't feel like he belongs in our family because he's adopted. I love him just as much as I would if he wasn't adopted but thanksgiving is gonna be very awkward especially seeing him wearing a ankle bracelet and watch which is what they use to monitor were he's at while he's under house arrest

I've been praying for him every day but what should I say to him on thanksgiving should I talk to him about God? I don't think that he's a very strong Christian and I don't want to make him mad.

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Good Job
by: Anonymous

Try to introduce the topic gently. If his reaction is good, keep going! If not, then lay off the subject until he seems more willing.

Not so Weird Thanksgiving
by: Melisa

Your cousin is blessed to have you in his life - someone who is praying for him and not judging, keep being supportive to him. It has to be hard when you are adopted and you struggle with wonderings on why your birth parents gave you up or didn't want you when that might not be the case at all but we can never fully be aware of the real reason and what was going on at the time and so suffer from feeling abandoned but I pray now for God to give him peace about it and to embrace it with an acceptance while opening his eyes to the fact that he was choosen - choosen to be loved by his adoptive parents who have comited to stand by him through his trials in life like what he's going through now. I also ask God to help direct him back on to the right path and to invite him to walk more closely with Him, for your cousin to be open and receptive to the invitation.

I would advise you to pray and ask God for advice on what to say to your cousin and when to say it then trust that you will feel the Spirit's promtings and that the words that flow from your mouth to his ears be from the Spirit and not of your own. If the timing is not right, then that's ok, let the light of Christ shine through with your actions, with your understanding, and your support. Sometimes no words need to be said to draw others to Christ, that's the power of God. Let your cousin see and feel the love this thanksgiving and maybe when your praying before dinner and you are all gathered around the table you can pray a prayer that will impact your cousin. It could be suble things that reach him. Also, you might want to gently tell your cousin that he has been forgiven by God and his sins washed clean and his mistakes forgotten. Good Luck and Happy Thanksgiving!

It's all about love
by: S'ambrosia

Thanksgiving will only be weird for your cousin if the people around him make it that way. Don't acknowledge the ankle bracelet or make a big deal out it. The bracelet tends to act as a symbol of shame, and the few people I know that have them would rather not have people asking them questions about it or awkwardly staring at it. Doing those things increases their guilt. Sometimes they'll make a show out of it, but it's only to protect their pride.

I would encourage you to ask the Lord for direction and use discernment when it comes to witnessing to him at this point. He knows he messed up and so does everyone else, so if you don't approach him with gentleness and love he will feel like instead of loving him where he's at, that you're just trying to fix him. For people in his situation, witnessing can sometimes feel like condemnation.

The single greatest thing you can do is love him. Show him that you genuinely care for him. You can even share the fact that you're praying for him and that God still loves him. Beyond that, let the Spirit guide you. Start with love though. Loving someone that doesn't feel that they deserve it speaks volumes to their heart. Tons more than words do!

Your Thanksgiving
by: Grace

This might seem wierd, but God does everything for a reason. God has blessed your cousin with your family and you. Now God is giving you the chance to show your love for him, and show your cousin the same love in hopes that he will be just as passionate for Christ as you. Now you just need to keep praying for him and pray about what you need to say to him at Thanksgiving and at Thanksgiving God will give you the right words to say and actions to do. I hope you have a great Thanksgiving and know that I will be praying for you and your cousin.

Your Thanksgiving
by: Grace

This might seem wierd, but God does everything for a reason. God has blessed your cousin with your family and you. Now God is giving you the chance to show your love for him, and show your cousin the same love in hopes that he will be just as passionate for Christ as you. Now you just need to keep praying for him and pray about what you need to say to him at Thanksgiving and at Thanksgiving God will give you the right words to say and actions to do. I hope you have a great Thanksgiving and know that I will be praying for you and your cousin.

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