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by Judy

I am praying almost every day that God gives me a mate and I have been fasting this year almost every week that God would show me who will be my husband because I really do not want to love somebody who won't be my mate.

But now I am so disappeared, I cannot pray for this topic, I cannot fast, because I became so sad. I cry lots of times and I do not know what I did wrong...

I think I am so exhausted. I do not know what will happen, I do not know why I cannot understand what God wants me to do. But I am really sad, I do not like to study, I do not like to be awake, I do not like to eat, I can find no joy in my life...

What should I do? I feel very very lonely.

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by: Rutendo

I am praying for you. Remember that fear is from Satan, God did not give us a spirit of fear but of power love and a sound mind. Be like Rebekah, she was of age - she was now at the age of marriage but she did not fear; no, she was obedient to her mom and brother Laban - she took care of the sheep. This is a time when you need to secure your finances so that your future marriage is financially stable.

Rebekah helped Abraham's servant I believe because she was a generous girl. She gave water both to Abraham's servants and to the camels. A camel drinks a minimum of 30 litres a day so Rebeah must have drawn roughly 300 litres from the well. In the same way instead of looking for guys through dating and all help those who cannot help themselves.

Lastly, Rebekah was wise in dealing with men. When the servant gave her gifts she immediately went hometo tell her brother. Similarly, be wise in dealing with men don't be desperate. Have an older woman to be accountable 4 all u do.

Hold On
by: Courtney

the bible does say that everyone should pray for their future spouses and to treat every dating relationship as if you were preparing for marriage. God did not give up on you. please, please, please do not think this. sometimes people, me especially, go to God already speaking and asking. sometimes, we should go listening instead. God is still there. He's all around you. negativity can result in deafness. once you don't get what you want in a certain time frame, you quit...don't. just remember the prayer of jabez. he specifically told God the exact desires of his heart. everyday he spoke them aloud and he received them. please don't give up. God is just handpicking your mate to fit you.

Turn to Him
by: Anonymous

Try to change what you are praying for. Remember God is sovereign and He has already picked out your partner and the perfect time when you will meet. But God knows your heart, and He needs to know that you will love Him regardless of whether you find a mate or not. He needs to be first in your heart. If you aren't happy now, finding a mate won't make you happy. Only God can. Start praying that He will help you to put Him first in your life. "Seek first the kingdom of God and all these things will be added unto you" Matt6 :33.
Will be praying for Gods comfort,joy and peace to be with you. He loves you so much.

Dear Judy,
by: Tina

Wow, this is a tough situation, isn't it? Feeling lonely is difficult. Since you asked for advice, I'll give you some of my thoughts on this.

1. You should find a woman who can be your friend and mentor in a local church. Find a married woman who has her relationship and life put together. Call your church's receptionist if you have to.. I'm sure she could get you plugged in. Ask her how she handled being single. Ask her how she handles certain things in her life now. Its good to have an in-person prayer partner as well.

2. Relax. Remember that God knows the big picture, while you may only be seeing a small part of it. Matthew 6:34 (New International Version) Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

3. For now, I think this has become an unhealthy obsession. It hurts me to see you hurting, but the sad thing is that a man will not fill the loneliness inside you. Join a small Bible study that allows for lots of discussion. Get plugged in in a single's ministry if you want. Definitely get plugged in to some sort of women's ministry. I think that you are looking SO HARD for something that God obviously gave you a desire for that you might be missing it! I'm impressed that you would fast for something you really want, which is something that few people have the self control to do today. However, don't let it get you depressed if you don't get an immediate answer. God might be telling you to wait until you are ready for a man! You need to become whole in God before you can make a life with a husband.
It is my belief that you are the most attractive to the right kind of Godly men when you are doing your own thing, strong in God, and content on your own. Then you will have the strength to maintain a healthy relationship, keeping God in the center and not building your life completely around that relationship.

Father,
I pray that you help Judy, my sister in Christ, to seek you more every day. Thank you for the healthy relationships she does have in her life. I pray that you will bring a tough, confident, respectful, Christian woman mentor into her life, and that Judy can open her eyes to see the spiritual works that you are doing in her life.
Lord, when the time is right I pray that Judy will see this Godly man that comes into her life. I pray that she will always keep you, Lord, in the center of that relationship, and that she knows even without a man she is loved and NOT alone!
Amen

If you want to talk more you can email me at dappleddakota@hotmail.com! :)

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Wow, this is a tough situation, isn't it? Feeling lonely is difficult. Since you asked for advice, I'll give you some of my thoughts on this. 1. You should find a woman who can be your friend and mentor in a local church. Find a married woman who has her relationship and life put together. Call your church's receptionist if you have to.. I'm sure she could get you plugged in. Ask her how she handled being single. Ask her how she handles certain things in her life now. Its good to have an in-person prayer partner as well. 2. Relax. Remember that God knows the big picture, while you may only be seeing a small part of it. Matthew 6:34 (New International Version) Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. 3. For now, I think this has become an unhealthy obsession. It hurts me to see you hurting, but the sad thing is that a man will not fill the loneliness inside you. Join a small Bible study that allows for lots of discussion. Get plugged in in a single's ministry if you want. Definitely get plugged in to some sort of women's ministry. I think that you are looking SO HARD for something that God obviously gave you a desire for that you might be missing it! I'm impressed that you would fast for something you really want, which is something that few people have the self control to do today. However, don't let it get you depressed if you don't get an immediate answer. God might be telling you to wait until you are ready for a man! You need to become whole in God before you can make a life with a husband. It is my belief that you are the most attractive to the right kind of Godly men when you are doing your own thing, strong in God, and content on your own. Then you will have the strength to maintain a healthy relationship, keeping God in the center and not building your life completely around that relationship. Father, I pray that you help Judy, my sister in Christ, to seek you more every day. Thank you for the healthy relationships she does have in her life. I pray that you will bring a tough, confident, respectful, Christian woman mentor into her life, and that Judy can open her eyes to see the spiritual works that you are doing in her life. Lord, when the time is right I pray that Judy will see this Godly man that comes into her life. I pray that she will always keep you, Lord, in the center of that relationship, and that she knows even without a man she is loved and NOT alone! Amen If you want to talk more you can email me at dappleddakota@hotmail.com! :)

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Hi Judy, what wonderful counsel our sisters in Christ have penned for you. Our Father promises safety in a multitude of godly counsel - He's faithful because you are safe here.

There's another quick thing I would like to add. As I read your post, I thought about Ruth working in the harvest field and was then noticed by Boaz.

I thought about Judy, how your singleness allows you to fully give yourself to ministry. Is there an outreach ministry that tugs at your heart? Are there certain people with certain concerns that seems to constantly find themselves to you? Perhaps a ministry is being birthed.

Proverbs 16 promises that if we commit our works to God that He would establish our thoughts. By that Judy, He would cause us to desire what He already wants to give us. He's so cool!

So if you believe that God gave you the desire to get married, know this, "though the vision tarries, wait for it, it shall surely come" (Habbakuk 2). So what do you do? Just like our sisters suggested, get busy, find a mentor, join a women's ministry, join an outreach - get busy preparing yourself for marriage. Get your affairs in order.

Learn to appreciate the wonder of being single - not alone. For in Christ, that can't be true; for He promises Judy to never leave us. He promises to even be our Husbandman. But you got to know that for yourself.

It is so freeing to wholly love and then to give that whole person to another. Jesus gave Himself out of love. Knowing that love - really possessing it in your heart gives you the grace to wait for that appointed time. because honestly Judy, you want a "whole" man to share your life with.

So Judy, may I suggest that you continue in your quest to learn more about His love for you. Learn what it means to be that Proverbs wife and mother yes, but even before that, walk in the power of being that Proverbs woman of God.

God bless you Judy!!!

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Hi Judy, what wonderful counsel our sisters in Christ have penned for you. Our Father promises safety in a multitude of godly counsel - He's faithful because you are safe here. There's another quick thing I would like to add. As I read your post, I thought about Ruth working in the harvest field and was then noticed by Boaz. I thought about Judy, how your singleness allows you to fully give yourself to ministry. Is there an outreach ministry that tugs at your heart? Are there certain people with certain concerns that seems to constantly find themselves to you? Perhaps a ministry is being birthed. Proverbs 16 promises that if we commit our works to God that He would establish our thoughts. By that Judy, He would cause us to desire what He already wants to give us. He's so cool! So if you believe that God gave you the desire to get married, know this, "though the vision tarries, wait for it, it shall surely come" (Habbakuk 2). So what do you do? Just like our sisters suggested, get busy, find a mentor, join a women's ministry, join an outreach - get busy preparing yourself for marriage. Get your affairs in order. Learn to appreciate the wonder of being single - not alone. For in Christ, that can't be true; for He promises Judy to never leave us. He promises to even be our Husbandman. But you got to know that for yourself. It is so freeing to wholly love and then to give that whole person to another. Jesus gave Himself out of love. Knowing that love - really possessing it in your heart gives you the grace to wait for that appointed time. because honestly Judy, you want a "whole" man to share your life with. So Judy, may I suggest that you continue in your quest to learn more about His love for you. Learn what it means to be that Proverbs wife and mother yes, but even before that, walk in the power of being that Proverbs woman of God. God bless you Judy!!!

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